Nov 7, 2011
Goddess Girl Power
I have been blessed with four beautiful children, two girls and two boys. My girls are ages 2 and 10 and the 2 year old is fierce and dynamic, never afraid to be herself, she hasn't yet learned shame, fear, or pressure, And I hope I can shield her from that knowledge of childhood cruelty forever...or at least until she's confident enough to not care. But my dear sweet 10 year old is so much like my young self it makes my heart ache. She's so good...so willing to please...and so unbelieving of herself it makes me want to cry and yell at the same time.
We have this practice in the family that if you say something negative, about anyone in the family-yourself included- you have to say three positive things to make up for it. I have to force her to say nice things about herself with the threat of time out or no TV...she says she doesn't want to sound too proud.
WHY ON EARTH NOT?!?
Who is going to love her if she doesn't think she deserves it? Who is going to see her full potential, and convince her it's there if she never believes?
I don't want my beautiful girl, who is so GOOD, to waste her childhood believing untruths. I am trying to help her become empowered, become strong, become sure, BECOME. It took me 35 years to START to believe in myself. And I know, looking back, all of the joy I could have found in life had I believed in myself. I can't stand the thought of it taking her that long. My mama bear comes out full force when anything happens with my babes, and it comes out with they are mean to themselves as well.
Last night we rolled the windows down and yelled at the top of our lungs-
I AM GOOD ENOUGH!
I AM BEAUTIFUL.
I AM SMART!!!
I AM WOMAN!!!
She hated it...
And the newest (embarrassing to her)project, is saying to our reflection in the mirror how much we love ourselves, everyday...every time we brush our teeth. I'm sure she thinks I'm a nut case. But it's worth it because (hopefully) one day, she will believe in herself as much as I believe in her.